Although this site starts with the building blocks of community–learning to make and sustain friendships, it’s more than just a “how to” for “making friends” or “influencing people.”
It’s no more a site about social skills than Lord of the Rings is a story about jewelry or Star Wars is a story about spaceship operation.
This is a long-running invitation to join the historic band of people whose lives have resulted in extraordinary displays of brotherhood and sisterhood.
It is a call to recover the kind of meaningful relationships humans were intended to have.
And it is a celebration of the possibility that lies before every group of humans: the opportunity to move from strangers to siblings.
This site is designed to boost your social health and inspire a sense of connectedness to our communities and to our world. To serve that end, it’s loaded with tools. While the people lovers among you may happily slurp up all of them, many of you will find they’re not all one size fits all.
The podcast and blog posts fit most. Some will also take well to the tongue-in-cheek YouTube videos that offer research-backed social insights. And others will even drink deeply from the periscope well. Periscopers have a community of “regulars” who tune in live (or sometimes watch the replay) and who follow along, comment, and come back often. It can be both endearing and cheesy at times, but it can also be a lot of fun. There are new features in the works as well. You’re welcome to take or leave anything and everything, using only the parts you enjoy and find helpful.
The world today’s children live in is not the same one we were born into years ago. Something, we sense, has changed.
Maybe it’s the rise of big box stores or the loss of front porch America. Maybe it’s the slow-extinction of elevator small talk as people ritually check their phones between floors.
Life seems so rushed; so riddled with opportunities for multi-tasking. We can’t even enjoy a good stoplight, what with all those emails screaming to be answered.
Connectedness is slipping through our texting, tweeting fingers.
But even though we’re perhaps proudly efficient and oh-so-happily chained to our gadgets, we’re secretly not 100% comfortable with how things are changing.
We have a sneaking suspicion that we were intended to experience life more slowly… to take the time to love bigger, to cherish the people around us, to relate to others more deeply.
We’re afraid we’re missing something.
That we’re short-changing our lives.
That one day we’ll have regrets.
But we feel a little bit trapped by our surroundings, like the planet is speeding away from the way things were with no ability to change course.
But I don’t buy that we’re destined to be distracted, disconnected prisoners in our own futures. And neither should you.
Humans are designed for connection. We are programmed to reach toward others, to grab on, to slip, fall short and reach again.
No matter how the world evolves, this will still be true.
Over the past few years, I’ve become a bit a relationship enthusiast. I’m not a prodigy–one of those people who naturally attracts crowds to their side. But I’ve learned enough while immersing myself in the subject to want to take a stand.
To assert that each of us is free to move toward a more connected way of living. That we can choose to invest in the quality of our relationships; to intentionally nurture community for ourselves and our families.
To refuse to sell ourselves and our world short.
To insist on living vividly aware of the value we bring to each other.