Lindsey Nobles Talks Women
When I was first inspired to create a blog series on women, I expected it to be a fun little group of posts. A little bit honest and a little bit funny. Something worth browsing through.
I had no idea how deep and real the interviews would get or how each person would rise to blow me away with their intuition and class.
Lindsey Nobles, Communication Director at Thomas Nelson, is no exception.
When I met Lindsey, she of course represented Thomas Nelson.
And I was little miss Zondervan author.
Though the Christian publishing industry usually comes off pretty warm even among competitors (in my experience anyways) you sometimes go into conversations wondering how different camps or different spots on the bookstore aisle will impact your interactions.
The answer with Lindsey Nobles…? Not. at. all.
She is gracious. Energetic. Put together. Genuine.
The type of woman who combined with some other Nashville-ites (like last week’s Jenni Catron) makes me think that Tennessee has an illegal amount of high caliber women.
Sarah: So Lindsey, the blog and tweet world loves you. But I’m guessing that being positively received doesn’t make you completely immune to challenges with women. Do you still run into tricky moments–jealousy, competitiveness– along the way?
Lindsey: Of course. I am not wired competitively but I certainly have moments when jealousy sneaks in. I definitely have moments where I get stuck in the unfortunate game of comparisons. I feel like the spoiled child who kicks and screams and yells, “It’s not fair! Why does everything come so easily to her? When will it be my turn?”
In those moments I try to remember two things. One, I have been blessed way beyond what I deserve. And two, other’s lives always look more desirable from a distance. In reality, nine times out of ten they are struggling through life just doing their best with what they’ve been given.
Lindsey: I have a lot of close friends that are women. Friends that have stuck with me through thick and thin, friends who aren’t afraid to have hard conversations, and friends who I trust to give me solid advice. I feel very blessed.
But when I moved to Nashville 3 years ago, I naturally got lumped into a group of all single women that were my age. I really missed having friends who were in different stages of life. I really missed being around families.
I remember asking a woman from church who seemed like a kindred spirit but I didn’t know very well if I could spend some time hanging out with her family. I explained my longing for diversity in my relationships and to be around children. She heard me and she invited me into their family. A year and a half later, I can’t begin to describe all the ways that she, and her family, have blessed me.
Sarah: I love that you took the initiative to be around healthy, life-giving people. What other suggestions or insights have you found that help you develop great relationships with women?
Lindsey: Over the past few years I have worked hard to cultivate deep friendships, to be the kind of friend that I would want. Here are four things that I have focused on to make that happen.:
1. Scaling back. I have tried to make sure I am not sacrificing quality for quantity. I am intentionally not investing so much time and energy in people who are negative or draining.
2. Invest, really invest, in every one of my “VIPs.” I want the most important people in my life to have NO DOUBT that I am on their team, relentlessly rooting for them.
3. Healing deep wounds left from decades of friendships gone awry. The last thing I want to do is leave it festering. Because as my pastor, Pete Wilson, always says “hurt people, hurt people.”
4. Being authentic and vulnerable. Even when it is tough. That is where true accountability starts.[[Note from Sarah: If you enjoyed this interview, you might want to check out the others in this series. Check out this one with leader and blogger Jenni Catron, this one with author Leeana Tankersley, this one with New York Times Best Selling Author Ann Voskamp, this one with non-profit leader Jena Nardella of Bloodwater Mission or this one with blogger Heather Whittaker.]]